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By Guy Finley

 A man once awakened to find himself riding through what appeared to be a haunted house. He didn’t know exactly where he was. All he did know was that it was very dark and that he was moving along with no choice as to the direction. And if that wasn’t bad enough, around almost every twisting corner he knew that something out of his worst dreams was ready to leap out at him. He was about to jump out of the car and run for help when he thought he heard a strong quiet voice speaking directly to him.

“Stay in the car,” it said, “Don’t be afraid. This darkness and its creatures are not real. You don’t have to be brave, but if you want out of this scary place, you must wait in the car until the ride is over. If you jump out now, you will just get out into the darkness. Listen to me. Sunlight is just ahead. You don’t have to do anything except let the ride end.”

He knew something out of the ordinary was happening to him because, right about then, his conventional wisdom would have had him out of the car and running like a wild man for anything that even resembled the way out. In some unexplainable way he sensed he had been in this position before and that this time he must do something altogether new.

And so, instead of listening to his own frantic feelings, he decided in favor of following the strange instructions that had just come to him. Some tense moments that seemed like a lifetime later, he found himself rolling out into the sunlight just as he had been told would happen if he allowed the ride to reach its natural end. To his great relief, it had only been a wild ride after all. Now here is the inner-explanation for this story. Ride it all the way to freedom.

Every sustained effort you make to grow beyond your self, so as to help effect a real change in your present level of consciousness, brings up in you a host of negative thoughts and feelings that can’t wait to point out the negatives as to why this can’t be done. We’ve all heard their whine within. They cry out, “no way,” “why try?” “too tough”— on and on it goes. Unexamined, these inner-voices appear to have our best interests in mind. But they lie; and to see the truth of this deception is vital in our quest for self-victory. We need only persist with our wish to wake up, let go, and know the truth of ourselves and—in spite of their vigorous protest — these same resistant reactions will be forced to reveal themselves as the hulking giants of fear and despair that they have always been! They are not your friends. In fact, their only appointed task is to see to it that you turn back. These fierce but fake fiends usually accomplish their task by making you believe that you can’t go any further with them blocking the way.

Now comes the best part. Here is the beauty and the secret way in which higher self-knowledge “rescues” the one who actualizes it. You don’t have to “do” anything else. Your part in the process is done. Just as in the story of the man’s scary ride through the haunted house, all you need to do is to listen to the voice of truth and do what it tells you to do. Listen now. You don’t have to do anything about what tries to disturb you on your journey to outside of yourself. In fact, like the man in our story, you mustn’t do anything except stay in the “car” of life as it carries you along. You are safe there—in the conscious awareness of your fears. Now you know better than to run from one scary doubt right into the arms of another. Practice this lesson in perfecting higher patience in the trying moments of life. Remember: inner-progress is not measured by what you do with any scary thoughts or feelings, but by how well you understand this new instruction: there is nothing that needs to be done with any dark state except for you to stay awake and watchful. Whatever wants to frighten you will eventually fade into the nothingness from out of which it came in the first place. Let the world inside of yourself go by. All you need do is to act from what you can see is true. Then, just like sunlight, victory comes to you.

(Excerpted from The Secret of Letting Go, Rev. Edition, Llewellyn, 2007)

Guy Finley is the acclaimed author of more than 35 books and audio programs on the subject of self-realization, several of which have become international best sellers. His popular works, published in 17 languages, are widely endorsed by doctors, professionals, and religious leaders of all denominations. Among many others, his popular titles include: The Secret of Letting Go, Design Your Destiny, The Lost Secrets of Prayer, Apprentice of the Heart, and Let Go and Live in the Now. Finley is the founder and director of Life of Learning Foundation, a nonprofit center for self-study located in Southern Oregon where he gives talks four times each week. Click here for a wealth of free helpful information, free audio and video downloads, and to request your free Self-Improvement Starter Kit.

By Guy Finley

Here is an amazing higher instruction that can help you step beyond yourself: “Walk away from the mental ‘how’ into the spiritual Now.” 

This secret instruction deserves our close attention. Its real value, like that of a priceless jewel, is best appreciated when seen from every angle. Just as it is the nature of such a rare jewel to reflect its inner brilliance in all directions, so is it the nature of this special instruction to light your way once you have unlocked its secret. Here is one of its keys. The journey outside of yourself doesn’t take you to a place, but to the realization that who you really are lives above the world of thoughts and feelings. The everyday mental life which naturally includes asking “how” has its practical place in the world of auto mechanics, building a house or running a computer. These kinds of tasks are governed by the mental life. Living and working in this physical world, it is necessary to ask “how” in order to learn to “do.” 

However, when it comes to learning how to live above and outside of our self, the same mental life that can safely deliver men to the moon cannot take us any higher or further than its loftiest thought.  A thought is never the thing. In other words, it is impossible to think yourself outside yourself.

If we want to know “how” to proceed with our inner-journey, we must understand that even the finest mental life cannot deliver us beyond what are its own inherent limitations. From this unique inner-vantage point we can see that something altogether new, some unthinkable leap is needed if we are to successfully bridge the gap between this limited mental world and the new life beyond our selves.

As you begin to realize the true restrictions of living from a thought-dominated self, you will no longer ask “how” because part of your new realization will include the understanding that this habitual question of “how” to get outside of yourself is actually arising from the same life-level you are trying to leave. At this important stage of your inner-development there may be times when it will seem to you as though there is no way out. You’ll be glad to learn that the truth has something better for you to do than feeling trapped. Here is its instruction: 

Each time you reach the point of self-uncertainty where you know you must take a step, but you also know that you can no longer ask “how,” just go ahead and step forward anyway! Step into the Now of this very moment. Step into what appears to be the darkness in front of you. Nothing bad will happen. In fact, something miraculous will occur right before your eyes. Your decision in favor of this bold new action thrusts you into the spiritual now where the actual moment itself teaches you everything you need to know about how to proceed. Moving away from the mental how into the spiritual Now places you under the guiding influences of an intelligence that never fears the unknown because higher understanding is its very nature. To your grateful astonishment this new order of intelligence does for you what you were certain you could not do for yourself. It solves the dilemma; it finds the way. All you need to do is follow.

It doesn’t matter how reluctantly you take your first step into the spiritual Now. What does matter is that you take the action. If you will do your part, the Truth will take care of the rest. This explains why the true spiritual life is said to be pathless. When it comes to leaving the mental world behind, there is no path outside of your next step…and your next…and your next. So what are we waiting for? The clearer we can make for ourselves the difference between the mental how and the spiritual Now the easier it becomes to depart from the one which is to enter the other. Keeping in mind what we have just learned, you may want to give the following ideas some special attention.

1. Living from the mental how: 

We often fear what we can’t understand.

  Living in the spiritual Now:

We understand that fear is a mental mistake.

2. Living from the mental how: 

We seek answers for tormenting questions.

  Living in the spiritual Now:

We understand that there is no intelligence in torment so we simply drop those questions.

3. Living from the mental how: 

We look to the past to help guide us to a secure future.

  Living in the spiritual Now:

There is freedom from the past and no thought for tomorrow because we are living fully in a painless present.

4. Living from the mental how: 

We are reluctant to admit when we are wrong.

  Living in the spiritual Now:

We are free from the punishing need to pretend that we are always right.

5. Living from the mental how:

We spend valuable time looking back in regret over past events.

  Living in the spiritual Now:

The past exists only for practical purposes and never as a source of pain or problems.

You may want to make your own list as I’ve done. By contrasting these two inner-conditions it will become increasingly clear to you which of these two worlds you really want to live in.

(Excerpted from The Secret of Letting Go, Rev. Edition, Llewellyn, 2007)

Guy Finley is the acclaimed author of more than 35 books and audio programs on the subject of self-realization, several of which have become international best sellers. His popular works, published in 17 languages, are widely endorsed by doctors, professionals, and religious leaders of all denominations. Among many others, his popular titles include: The Secret of Letting Go, Design Your Destiny, The Lost Secrets of Prayer, Apprentice of the Heart, and Let Go and Live in the Now. Finley is the founder and director of Life of Learning Foundation, a nonprofit center for self-study located in Southern Oregon where he gives talks four times each week. Click here for a wealth of free helpful information, free audio and video downloads, and to request your free Self-Improvement Starter Kit.

By Guy Finley

We all know exactly what it is like to be certain we have let go of something sorrowful or worrisome, only to find ourselves in a similar sad situation moments later. 

Dropping this person and picking up that person doesn’t end the loneliness that drives us into dead-end relationships. This isn’t letting go. We have only managed to put the emptiness on hold. 

Changing jobs to get away from someone or something that sets us off doesn’t cancel our conflict. This just delays the inevitable angry feelings that always surface whenever we feel threatened. Our anger cannot keep us safe from an insensitive world—this anger is the insensitivity itself.

Now, here’s the greatest secret on earth: the truth is that genuine letting go is very simple and, above all, natural; as natural for you and me as it is for a tree to shed the heavy, sun-ripened fruit that clings to its branches. Why? Because both man and tree, in fact all living things, are created to drop what is no longer needed. 

For the tree, the falling fruit carries its matured seed to the ground. No unnatural force is necessary. In a similar fashion—that is to say, under higher but equally exacting laws—these same friendly forces are waiting to do for you what you haven’t been able to do for yourself. You need only learn to cooperate with these powerful and timeless principles to be able to let go of any emotional bitterness, relentless regret, anxious worry or troubling thought. The rest will be done for you.

This is what the secret of letting go is all about. First must come the understanding that we are still carrying around the accumulated defeats of a lifetime and that these weary weights have only served to make us someone sorry, not someone special. 

This initial shock may shake us, but it is really a major breakthrough. It heralds the first in a series of miraculous self-separations in which we begin to see that we have been living from an unseen part of ourselves: A self that thinks clinging to wreckage is the same as being rescued! 

Now we understand why all of our past efforts to let go have only left us holding a new problem. But now we also know, at last, exactly what it is that must be dropped. We must let go of this sorry self that is certain it is better to suffer and feel like someone than it is to just let go and quietly be no one. Have no concerns how this task will be accomplished. That is Reality’s responsibility.

This higher knowledge that is now beginning to reveal you to yourself is not mental. It is coming to you from a lofty, wise and powerful part of yourself which lives way above everyday thinking and its ceaseless conflict over what may or may not be best. 

Your newly awakening inner-nature knows what is best for you because it sees life without the painful confusion and contradictions that always accompany compulsive self-interest. For instance, this higher intelligence knows that you don’t need to ache even when you are sure you must. 

Once you have made contact with the still secret self within, it does the rest. That’s right. It is this higher part of yourself alone that has the strength and wisdom to gently open your hand so that out of it may drop all that has been making you unhappy.

Believe me, you are on the verge of the single greatest discovery any human being can make. The secret of letting go not only holds the keys for ending what is unwanted, but locked within this same supreme secret is the beginning of your New Life—the birth of a new nature that never has to hold on to anything because it is already everything. 

Dare to proceed. Let the following special insight speed you on your way: Letting go is the natural release which always follows the realization that holding on hurts.

(Excerpted from The Secret of Letting Go, Rev. Edition, Llewellyn, 2007)

Guy Finley is the acclaimed author of more than 35 books and audio programs on the subject of self-realization, several of which have become international best sellers. His popular works, published in 17 languages, are widely endorsed by doctors, professionals, and religious leaders of all denominations. Among many others, his popular titles include: The Secret of Letting Go, Design Your Destiny, The Lost Secrets of Prayer, Apprentice of the Heart, and Let Go and Live in the Now. Finley is the founder and director of Life of Learning Foundation, a nonprofit center for self-study located in Southern Oregon where he gives talks four times each week. Click here for a wealth of free helpful information, free audio and video downloads, and to request your free Self-Improvement Starter Kit.

By Guy Finley

Are you afraid of some condition in your life? Here’s a life-transforming secret: that seemingly scary condition, whatever it may be, is not the problem. It is your reaction that is fearful. This is why if you will become conscious of your condition instead of afraid of it, you will change forever your relationship with fear. 

It is only within this special kind of inner-relationship that there is real safety, because now you are interacting with fear in an entirely new way. You are no longer letting it dictate to you how to act or what to do. Instead, you are aware of the fear. You are learning to quietly observe and study it. And, each day, as you discover something new about the strange and shaky nature of your own fearful reactions, they begin to lose their power over you.

Why? Because you are at last seeing them for what they have always been: unintelligent mechanical forces. You are slowly becoming stronger than they are because by seeing them as they are—not as they would have you see them—you have helped yourself to climb above and outside of their influence. This self-insight is the difference between trembling through your life and being in command of it.

To be consciously afraid means that you know you are frightened, but at the same time you know that these very fears, as real as they may seem, are not you. And no wrong reaction can keep you captive once you begin to see it for what it is. 

Fear is, and has always been, nothing but a self-limiting reaction that we cling to in the darkness of our present life-level, having mistaken it for a shield of self-protection. But, just as the faintest of early morning sunlight can dispel the night-long darkness, so does the smallest of insights into a persistent fear lead to letting it go.

You can prove this powerful principle to yourself anytime you want. Just dare to proceed even while being afraid. But remember, your new aim isn’t to be courageous or to try and act strong in the face of fear. No. We’ve seen that this won’t work. You simply want to be more curious about your frightened thoughts and feelings than you want to believe in them. 

If you will follow this simple but higher instruction, not only will you start to see these habitual reactions that have been keeping you scared and running, you’ll actually start seeing through them. This is where the real miracle occurs. 

Each new insight into the actual nature of these negative reactions removes some of their power over you. And their loss is your gain. You are stronger now and you know it. You also know this new strength will never fail you because it isn’t just the temporary appearance of a bold opposite. This new strength of yours is the absence of an old weakness.

Let’s look at just one of the ways in which this principle of putting self-illumination before psychological self-protection can turn fear into fearlessness. 

Do you know someone who you would rather run from than run into? Most of us do! Nevertheless, starting right now, resolve never again to avoid any person that scares you. 

In fact, go ahead and walk right up to that critical man or aggressive woman and say or do exactly what you want instead of letting the fear tell you to do what it wants. Have no ideas at all about the way things should or shouldn’t go. You are there to watch and learn about yourself, not to win an ego victory. Let that person see you shake if that is what starts to happen. What do you care? Besides, it is only temporary. That unpleasant person before you can’t know it, but you are shaking yourself awake.

For the first time, you are letting your reactions roll by instead of letting them carry you away. As you stand there, momentarily apart from your usual self and working hard to remain as inwardly watchful as you know how, you can see that this flood of previously unconscious reactions has its own life story; a shaky sort of story that up until now you had embraced as your own. But now you are beginning to see the whole story. The fears do not belong to you. Here is the explanation:

You have never been afraid of another person. The only thing you have ever been frightened by is your own thoughts about that person. Yes, you did feel fear, but it wasn’t yours and it wasn’t towards someone stronger than you. The fear you felt was in what you thought he or she was thinking about you. 

Amazing isn’t it? You have been afraid of your own thoughts! And seeing this ends this. Now you can let this thought-self go, because no one holds on to terror. 

 (Excerpted from The Secret of Letting Go, Rev. Edition, Llewellyn, 2007)

Guy Finley is the acclaimed author of more than 35 books and audio programs on the subject of self-realization, several of which have become international best sellers. His popular works, published in 17 languages, are widely endorsed by doctors, professionals, and religious leaders of all denominations. Among many others, his popular titles include: The Secret of Letting Go, Design Your Destiny, The Lost Secrets of Prayer, Apprentice of the Heart, and Let Go and Live in the Now. Finley is the founder and director of Life of Learning Foundation, a nonprofit center for self-study located in Southern Oregon where he gives talks four times each week. Click here for a wealth of free helpful information, free audio and video downloads, and to request your free Self-Improvement Starter Kit.

By Iain Legg

1. DON’T give away your power to people. Take responsibility for your life. If things aren’t going as hoped in your life, re-examine your deepest beliefs. Swap limiting beliefs for empowering ones.

2. DO get a pet! According to Power vs. Force, a purring cat vibrates at 500 

3. DON’T watch movies that drag you down. According to Power vs.  Force, this is most films. Watch movies that will make you feel  good. Listen to music that fills you with positive emotions. Read  books that empower you. (Control the input to your brain, and you’ll control your output.)

4. DO focus on what you want in your life, not what you don’t want - remember the law of attraction… You have the power to create the life of your dreams - even if the world around you seems messed up, don’t lose focus…

5. DO imagine that what you dream of is in your life now, and feel grateful for it now …and after that think of 10 more things to be grateful for. 

6. DO have fun. Life is about being happy. Don’t wait until you have this or that… Don’t put off happiness. Live now. Enjoy now.

7. DO seek to discover the truth about the meaning of your life. The answers are there if you look for them. Awareness and peace of mind are high vibrations.

8. DO use tools and strategies to help you achieve higher levels of consciousness, such as meditation and the free Alpha audio (see below)

9. DON’T watch the news on television. It is filled with negativity which lowers your vibrations. (Why is 95% of all news all the time focused on bad news?) If you want to keep abreast of current affairs search the internet for independent, unbiased news. Seek the truth. Trust your intuition. This will also help give you a much more balanced view of reality. There’s lots of good news out there if you’re looking for it…

10. DO help other people. Join activist sites like www.Avaaz.org that collect petitions to help humanity. Forgiveness, compassion and understanding are good vibrations. 

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By Iain Legg

In his book ‘Power vs Force’, David Hawkins calibrates people’s emotions from levels 20 up to 1000. 20 being Shame which is perilously proximate to death. It’s destructive to emotional and psychological health, and makes us prone to physical illness.

At the other end of the scale at 700- 1000 is enlightenment. This is the level of the Great Ones such as Krishna, Buddha and Jesus.

It is the peak of the evolutionary consciousness in the human realm.

All levels (which could be classed as vibration levels) below 200 are said to be energy draining, and below integrity. These vary from Guilt (30), Grief (75), Fear (100) up to Pride (175).

People feel positive as they reach Pride level. However Pride feels good only in contrast to the lower levels. Pride is defensive and vulnerable because it’s dependent upon external conditions, without which is can suddenly revert to a lower level.

At the 200 level, power first appears. Courage (200) is the zone of exploration, accomplishment, fortitude, and determination. People at this level put back into the world as much energy as they take; at the lower levels, populations as well as individuals drain energy from society without reciprocating.

Further levels include willingness (310), Acceptance (350) and Love (500).

This level is characterized by the development of a Love that isunconditional, unchanging, and permanent. It doesn’t fluctuate -its source isn’t dependent on external factors. Loving is a state of being. This is the level of true happiness.

Interesting facts from the book -

* The concept and theories behind these experiments were conducted over a 20 year period using a variety of Kinesiology tests and examinations.

* Kinesiology has an almost certain 100% accuracy reading every time. It will always reveal Yes, No, True, and False answers.

* Collective Consciousness: These experiments reveal that there is a higher power that connects everything and everyone.

* Everything calibrates at certain levels from weak to high including books, food, water, clothes, people, animals, buildings, cars, movies, sports, music etc.

* 85% of the human race calibrates below the critical level of 200.

* The overall average level of human consciousness stands at 207.

* Human consciousness was dangling at below the 200 level (190) for many centuries before it suddenly rose up to its present level some time in the mid 1980s. Hence Nostradamus’s end of the world predictions may have been avoided (he made his predictions at a time when human consciousness was at below the 200 level). For the world to stay at levels below 200 over a prolonged period of time would cause a great imbalance that would undoubtedly lead to the destruction of all humanity.

* The power of the few individuals at the top counterbalances the weakness of the masses.

* 1 individual at level 300 counterbalances 90,000 individuals below level 200

* 1 individual at level 500 counterbalances 750,000 individuals below level 200

* 1 individual at level 700 counterbalances 70 million individuals below level 200

In other words, as a co creator of the world, if you vibrate at 200 and above you will be helping to raise the consciousness of mankind, and be a big part in creating a better world for everyone.

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By Guy Finley

During a class I was giving on “Letting Go of Self-Doubt,” Pat S. wanted to know why unforeseen events, or even the threat of an unforeseen event, made her feel so uncomfortable. Following are the key questions and answers from our discussion:

Q: Why am I so easily upset by the unexpected? 

A: If you’re interested enough in this question, we can go into it. The answer may surprise you.

Q: Yes, I really want to know why changes in my life, at work or at home, make me so uneasy.

A: Good. Then let’s start by clearing up the initial mental mistake that is at the root of your problem. It’s not really you who feels shaky when situations shift without warning.

Q: If it’s not me, then who is it?

A: Who you think you are; that’s what feels threatened. But you do not have to go on feeling afraid. Beginning right now, with some patient self-investigation and the aid of a few higher facts, you will discover that you are not who you think you are. This is one of the most exciting and relief-filled self-findings you can make about yourself.

Living from our present life-level, we are almost always nervous about what’s going on around us. Why? Because we still live with the mistaken notion that who we are is somehow affected or determined by what happens to us. 

For example, say you walk outside and scuff a new pair of shoes. Why should there be pain in this unless we have literally mistaken ourselves for being a shoe! Obviously, we are not a piece of polished leather. Hopefully, we can laugh at ourselves here by seeing how silly and self-compromising this kind of unconscious suffering is.  And yet, putting aside this humor that our presently confused mind is apt to cause, there is nothing funny about thinking that you are going to lose yourself if someone leaves you. Just ask anyone who has ever gone through the nightmare of seeing a loved one walk away. 

This is why we are going to leave behind us, once and for all, this threatened nature of ours. By placing ourselves in the care of real Intelligence, we can learn to let go of whatever it may be that has frightened us up to now. That’s right. The winds of this world can blow hot or cold, gentle or like gales, and it won’t matter to you. You have found yourself. Let’s continue to learn.

There is only one possible explanation for how who you really are could ever get confused or pained by what happens to you. Simply stated, you are suffering from a case of mistaken identity. This identity crisis is born out of believing that who you are, your essential self, is somehow tied to the events in your life. This kind of thinking tends to make you afraid of almost any change in life. 

By thinking that your life is determined by events, you grow afraid of losing control of yourself if you can no longer control the events. Looking for yourself outside of yourself—whether through career, hobbies, or in the faces of people, family or strangers—is like trying to find your reflection in a tumbling mountain brook. You might see yourself for a flash, only to disappear. And then you must look again…and again…and again. 

Living from this unfortunate kind of mistaken identity leaves you endlessly on edge and hopelessly searching for yourself; a search that never ends because, just as the mountain brook dances ever onward, so is constant change the true nature of life.

Remember this next helpful idea and work to learn the intelligence behind it: Events may happen to you, but you are not the event. Just as clouds are not the sky, you are not what moves through you. You are not who you think you are.

As we have discovered, thinking that you are the event, being identified with it, gives rise to a certain wrong identity—an anxious and uncertain one. This mistaken identity is called the false self and it wears many hats. For now, let’s just say this false self is a character created in our consciousness from the sum of our experiences in life; and that’s quite natural. 

Where things go “wrong” for us is that this level of “self” only knows how to compare what “is” to what was; it can’t meet any moment with the same newness that moment brings because this self is, literally, a construct of one’s past. And as long as we see life through its eyes, the freedom that comes with living in the present moment remains impossible. 

It is possible to learn all about this lower nature and, at the same time, how to let it go. For too long it has lived unchallenged within us. Today, right now, is the beginning of the end of it, and the true beginning of who you really are.  

(Excerpted from The Secret of Letting Go, Rev. Edition, Llewellyn, 2007)

Guy Finley is the acclaimed author of more than 35 books and audio programs on the subject of self-realization, several of which have become international best sellers. His popular works, published in 17 languages, are widely endorsed by doctors, professionals, and religious leaders of all denominations. Among many others, his popular titles include: The Secret of Letting Go, Design Your Destiny, The Lost Secrets of Prayer, Apprentice of the Heart, and Let Go and Live in the Now. Finley is the founder and director of Life of Learning Foundation, a nonprofit center for self-study located in Southern Oregon where he gives talks four times each week. Click here for a wealth of free helpful information, free audio and video downloads, and to request your free Self-Improvement Starter Kit.